Between the blog, being a wife and mom, plus all the other titles I hold, my days are crazy! Tom’s schedule is the same way and if he gets home at a reasonable hour, our down time usually consists of binge watching netflix or HBO. So since our weeks are always hectic we try to break away from our crazy schedules and make time for us.
I think it’s so important to have date night with a significant other. When you have little ones at home or are just busy with work, the day to day becomes so routine and it’s important to make your relationship a priority.
Tom and I go out, just the two of us, at least once a week. Whether it’s to the movies, a nice romantic dinner, a fun club, or just a Saturday afternoon doing some sort of activity, we make the time for each other.
Below are 5 great tips on how to make time for each other when you both have a busy schedule:
1. Plan ahead:
I know it might seem obvious, but it’s funny how quickly your schedule fills up and before you know it, you haven’t seen your hubby for a week! Make sure you coordinate your schedule so you can figure out a time that works for both of you.
We always try to plan date nights ahead of time, whether its meeting for lunch, catching a movie together, or a dinner date. Planning ahead also gives you something to look forward to and a chance to dress up. Check out My Go To Date Night Outfits to help get dressed up for the occasion!
2. Find something you love to do together:
There’s nothing wrong with having your own hobbies, but finding one you can share together is important. It becomes your “special thing” to do together and it’s a great way to experience something new and form a fun memory or bond while spending time together.
3. Put down your phone:
In today’s world, turning off your phone is not realistic. Especially if you have children at home. You never want to be completely off line in case of an emergency, but you also don’t need to constantly look at your phone when you’re on your date.
Tom and I have a “no phone” policy during meal times so we can really enjoy our time together. It’s on loud so I can hear if the sitter needs me, but I turn off all other notifications and put it down.
4. Learn to turn it off:
This one is very hard for me because I constantly feel like I have something to do. But whether it’s work, school, or whatever responsibilities you have, learning to turn it off every once in a while is very healthy and will benefit ALL your relationships. That might mean disconnecting from the world and banning phones (as discussed above) every once in a while.
For example, try going to the park with your husband, kids, and/or dog and leave your phone in the stroller. I’m still learning how to balance work and home life since the two coincide often, but it’s an important skill to learn.
This may not be realistic for some people, but even if it’s a staycation, “getting away” from everything is very important. Last weekend, Tom and I went to Austin, TX for a wedding. As shown in above photos, it was SO refreshing to not only have the time together and getaway from it all, but most importantly, get a break from the day to day and just reconnect with no distractions. Removing yourself from your normal routine and going somewhere new is exciting and such a nice break.
Back at home, it’s easy to forget to focus on yourself and your partner when you have so many jobs and different titles to hold on any given day. Being Melissa and Tom for just a weekend was very refreshing. We vowed that even if all we can swing is a weekend staycation, we need to do a getaway at least once a month.