About Modish Mel

“Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.”

I created this platform to have the opportunity to share with others all that inspires me and most importantly to tell my story. I hope you leave here feeling encouraged and knowing that we are all in this together.

Originally from CT, I always imagined that I would live in the city to pursue my dreams of becoming an actor/singer. My journey into adulthood and finding my true self started when I made the decision to leave Berklee College of Music after finishing my freshman year. I also took a leap of faith and moved into New York City at just 19 years old. As I went on any and every audition, and booked occasional gigs, I became a nanny to support myself. One of the families I worked for was an executive at Conde Nast.

The view from my NYC apartment. Always inspiring…

Though I always admired outfits, shopping and followed the latest trends, working for this family truly introduced me into the world of fashion. This job lead to other fashion roles, and one thing lead to another and I eventually took a job working with the COO of a top licensing fashion company and then for the design and merchandising team at Tory Burch. It was all such an exciting time.

Had to dig deep for this snap shot! The early years…

During this time, I met the man of my dreams and we eventually moved in together and got married (that’s a whole other story for another day). We have always respected and supported each other in following our dreams and that still holds true for today. My husband eventually went back to get his MBA at NYU while working full time and I continued to rise up at my job. My husband went on to graduate from NYU Stern, receiving his MBA, and I became pregnant with our first daughter, Vivienne.

About 4 months pregnant with my first baby, Vivienne!

We were both very happy and excited about becoming parents, but we were also young and both still had big dreams to fulfill. I fully intended on going back to work after maternity leave, but after being a new mom for 3 months, my husband was offered a dream job in Dallas, TX… all the way across the country, away from everything I ever knew.

I never planned on leaving NYC… It’s where I got my first “real” job and where I became an adult and found out I was going to be a mom. It’s where I fell in love and it’s where I called home for almost 8 years. It was a hard pill to swallow, but it was my husband’s turn to follow his dreams and my turn to support him.

My husband graduating and receiving his MBA from Stern Business school at NYU. I was about 7 months pregnant and so proud of him!

So we packed up and moved to Dallas, TX, with an infant, away from family, friends, my support system, and everything I ever knew. We took a leap of faith and just went for it.

And as if that wasn’t enough change, I became pregnant with our second daughter, Eleanor and we became a family of 4.

Baby bump! About 14 weeks pregnant with my second, Eleanor.
Family of 4, hanging in Vivienne’s room! Vivienne was about 2 1/2 and Eleanor was about 10 months in this photo.

After a crazy, life changing 3 years, I FELT like myself again and at around 6 months after giving birth to Eleanor, I created my blog, Modishmel.

Modishmel.com was created for me to build a stage and to fulfill my dreams in performing. I did this by showing my style or sharing the latest trends and where I love to shop and to give beauty tips and also to have a place for me to be creative, but it became so much more than that. I started connecting with other mothers going through the same stuff I was going through. People started reaching out asking about my outfits or where to shop, but also asking about what type of bottle I was using or how I got my children to sleep through the night or if I ever experienced post pardon depression… etc. People were writing to me about their own life and trying to connect. It became not only an outlet for me, but also an outlet for others. I suddenly realized I had this platform to help inspire other young mothers and somehow show them that they are not alone in this journey we call motherhood.

The blog started to grow organically and I started to connect with so many women on this platform I created, but as the saying goes, when you make plans God laughs. Because as my blog was taking off and we were finally feeling like Dallas was our home, my husband got offered a great promotion! And as fate would have it, the job was located in no other than NYC!!! My husband has always been a hard worker so it was no surprise that he rose up quickly but the icing on the cake was that we were able to move back home. It was bittersweet because Dallas became our new home and we made friends that were like our family, but we were also happy to get back to the city we loved so deeply and to also be close by our support system once again.

BUT  for every big move in our life, it’s just not stressful enough… SOMEHOW I end up pregnant to add even more chaos to our lives! So without fail, I ended up becoming pregnant with our third baby and had to move across country while 34 weeks pregnant with two toddlers.

Tidgwell Party of 5!

And after 3 awesome and incredible years in Dallas, we said good bye to the life we built and moved back home to Greenwich, CT.

To say the least we had A LOT going on and I decided to take almost 6 months off from my blog.

My blog was gaining popularity, but I had to put my energy into everything else that was going on in my life. Moving across country with two littles while 34 weeks pregnant, living with my parents while looking for our new home, having our third baby in my parent’s home, and adjusting to life back on the east coast with now 3 kids almost made me go crazy! Change is hard enough but the added stress of a new baby plus two young children is enough to make one go insane! I almost did…

Tidgwell party of 5

We ended up finding an adorable house in Greenwich, CT and moved in April 2018. Today I finally feel like it’s our home. I have also come out of (what I call) the “baby fog” and have lost all my baby weight for the third time around. I am feeling settled in our home though there is still work to be done, and I’m finally ready to start focusing on my blog again.

Our new home in Greenwich, CT!

So here I am today (October 2018) an ambitious determined mom of 3 and ready to “re-launch” Modishmel and take it to the next level.

me and my little man

“How do you find inspiration being in this competitive space…?”

I absolutely love the fashion industry and I love styling and creating images that capture the essence of a feeling or thought. I also love sharing my life and experiences as a mother. I think it’s so powerful to be open about motherhood and through my photography, writing, and stories, I have developed an amazing relationship with my followers. The messages or questions I receive is what I live for. Even if I just reach ONE other person or if I am an outlet for at least one other mama and make her feel not so alone and that we are in it together… I feel like I have done my job.

“What can people find coming to Modishmel?”

A community. I have created this space for fashion inspiration, motherhood advice, beauty tips, mom’s finding their style, and an outlet for my creativity, but most importantly, I created this platform for people to come and be inspired and know you are not in this alone.

“What defines your style?”

My style is following my intuition. It is unplanned and generally a reflection of my mood.

Do you follow specific guidelines or have an approach to define yourself in this competitive space?

I don’t have a specific approach to my blog, other than staying real and telling my stories and truths through the magic of photography and writing. I am very passionate about creating unique, and original content. Also connecting with other mothers and hearing their own  journey is something that motivates me. I am learning every single day as Modish Mel grows into what it’s meant to be. I don’t know where this journey will lead, but I do know hard work and dedication and believing in yourself only leads to good things.

Thank you so much for stopping by.

Your time and willingness to support Modish Mel is deeply appreciated. Thank you for following my crazy life and helping me navigate this thing called motherhood.

If you have any questions, or just want to chat, please email me at modishmel@gmail.com or visit me on my instagram page @modishmel